“Be More Interested Than Interesting”
At some point in the past year (for a variety of reasons) the how, the why, and the when of social media slightly changed for me. I have been reflecting a ton on the purpose of social media to me – both professionally and personally (see Social Media in Education: Who Is It Really About?). I have been thinking about HOW I read online (unfortunately, often just scan) and HOW I interact with others. I have been thinking about the purpose of social media as it pertains to my learning and my life. I have altered the amount of time I spend learning from and with others online.
Over the holidays, one of the books I read was Mark Goulston’s “Just Listen: Discovering the Secret to Getting Through to Absolutely Anyone”. Among the many things that resonated with me in this great read was that I realized in the past few years, I have spent too much time trying to be interesting online and less time being interested offline (and online). I have spent so much time communicating, learning and connecting that it has distracted me from the DOING both in my school and in my life outside of school. I also know this is all a part of my continuous learning journey to be a better leader, educator, and person… to me, this is growth.
“The measure of self-assurance is how deeply and sincerely interested you are in others; the measure of insecurity is how much you try to impress them with you.” — Mark Goulston
Some people have asked me which single word defines my goals for 2013. Although I do not generally make new year’s resolutions, I believe that the word that has driven me to be better in the past year and into this year is: FOCUS. In addition to spending more focused time with my family and in my school, as well as in my personal and professional learning, I need to focus more on LISTENING and being INTERESTED. I will continue to share interesting things that I read and the successes we are having at Kent School but I will work harder on being more interested in those around me.
“If you want to have an interesting dinner conversation, be interested. If you want to have interesting things to write, be interested. If you want to meet interesting people, be interested in the people you meet—their lives, their history, their story.” — Jim Collins
Related post: Listen With Your Eyes